It seems that I have been in a constant state of fear. Afraid of fumbling my first workshop. Afraid that I won’t be able to pack my things into the storage unit before vacation. Afraid that I will not have the stamina for my Ashtanga training with Manju. Afraid that I will not be successful once I move to Maui. You can imagine what constant fear does to the body. For me it begins first with my mood. Over a progression of a few days I become less motivated, tired, and overall just plain ol blah. Then I become critical of myself, which therefore turns into unpatience with others. Snapping at minor things. That turns into guilt with more feelings of powerlessness and a quick desention into utter non movement accompanied by the brain dulling television. Then begin the back aches. Headaches. Bellyaches. Boom. Fear has snowballed into an angry entity of emotions and bodily harm.
So how do we combat fear?
We move away from fear when we begin to take care of ourselves. Mentally and Physically. Only then will we begin to feel our own personal support, helping ourselves step off the edge of the cliff. This is important because it gives ourselves self empowerment. Elizabeth Gilbert wrote this letter to fear “I recognize and respect that you are part of this family, and so I will never exclude you from our activities, but still- your suggestions will NEVER be followed. You’re allowed to have a voice, but you are not allowed to have a VOTE. You’re not allowed to touch the road maps; you’re not allowed to suggest detours; you’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. DUDE, you’re not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, my DEAR old familiar friend, you are absolutely FORBIDDEN to drive.”
Self care steps to release fear
- Get a massage – not only does it help release tension from your poor muscles twisted in your fear, it also gives you the space to separate from the fearful thoughts
- Buy some crystals – clear quartz absorbs, stores, releases, and regulates energy, revitalizing emotional, physical and mental planes.
- Take a mindful meditation walk – mindful meditation allows ourselves to be in the present moment, aware of our surroundings. It is a great way to get away from fear and appreciate the beauty of the world.
- Take a yoga class – sometimes working out the fear is a great way to reset yourself. Instead of succumbing to the bed, snacks, and binge watching netflix (although every once in awhile this is therapeutic on its own, especially with delicious healthy snacks).
- Draw a bath with healing herbs – bath salts, essential oils, and dried flowers (roses, lavender, chamomile) make for an especially soothing, healing soak. Adding candles and some relaxing music could soothe away all fears. Just be careful not to fall asleep!
- Daily mantra- Mantras are great in helping us refocus our thought patterns. You can make your own or look for inspiration from others. Spirit Junkie Gabrielle Bernstein has two great quotes that you could use as your mantra.
- “My faith is stronger than my fear”
- “The more fear I shed, the more I shine”
There are a multitude of ways to self care your fears away. Find what works best for you and run with it. Remember, you are not alone in this life. Together, we will make it through. It’s a crazy roller coaster, this thing called life, but as long as we continue to have faith and trust, we’ll always make it through. Let your inner light shine bright my precious dreamer.